Making relationship/marriages work?

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  1. BoxingSpecialist2

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    Hey Guys,

    Just wondering if some of you can share any tips for success in relationships and marriages? Any tips for long term success in relationships and marriages with females? How do you make it work? Did you date a lot in your teens and 20's? What age is good to marry and so forth?

    Personally, I am 23, very soon to be 24 years old. I am an extremely confident guy, but Ive been through a lot of breakups already and its very stressful, frustrating, and downright depressing at times. Ive had 3 or 4 longterm (1 year+) relationships. And breakups have been brutal. Of course Ive also had about 10 or 15 girls Ive dated casually and maybe had sex with, but never a longterm relationship.

    One of my ex girlfriends (who happens to be Persian, Caucasian from Afghanistan) that I dated for a couple years is now a Doctor and married to another European white man who is a bit older than me. He's about 28. On one hand I am happy for her, and I respect her choice, but on the other hand I am jealous and sad about it. I feel like it should have been me in that situation, but it's not. Its frustrating to date someone for 3 or 4 years, then breakup, and she marries someone she has been with for only 1 or 2 years.

    Then another exgirlfriend (also Persian, Caucasian from Iran-Iraq border) that I just broke up and was with for one year, so I still feel "blah" about that. I know its nothing and I will move on but it in a way it hurts. Its just a lot of drama and I was hoping to maybe marry her, but it didn't work out.

    I guess its nothing and Im sure I will move on, but all of these exgirlfriends and it kind of stresses me out, makes me wonder "what if", and burns me out at times. I'm also one of those guys who is always wanting sex so its important for me to always have a girlfriend that I can have sex with.

    How do you deal with thoughts about exgirlfriends, and how many breakups did you have before you got married? How do you feel when your ex gets married like mine?

    What changes can I make so I will avoid breakups?


    Thanks, all comments welcomed.
     
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  2. Anak

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    My advice is that you should stop reading romance novels, your fiction just plain sucks. Also, I suggest you check out livejournal and tumblr.
     
  3. BoxingSpecialist2

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    Are those dating sites?

    Cool. Well usually I just meet females in real life, at work, at pubs/clubs, or when out randomly. As I said I'm very confident and I'm the type of guy who literally will approach a girl anywhere and make some kind of contact.

    Ive tried a couple online dating sites (pof.com and singlemuslim.com), and met up with a few girls, but I havent had any good results so far. All of my relationships Ive met the girls in real life so I think thats better for me.
     
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    You are trying too hard, based on what you have posted in the past on these forums about yourself, your "confidence" might rub them the wrong way. I met my wife at age 24 when I wasn't even looking for a relationship. It just happened and this appears to be the case with most of my married friends. If a girl isn't hesitant about making things serious, then the odds are she never will want things to be serious. Many women simply date because they don't want to be alone. It is going to be hard to find the "one" at a bar or club. This might have been easier back in the day but most of them now are just looking for one night stands. Just go to church, plenty of single women that are ready to become moms/housewives that want to have 4 to 6 kids.
     
  6. BoxingSpecialist2

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    Thanks, this is good advice. You are absolutely right that bars and clubs are not ideal places for meeting a future wife. Church, mosque, or even volunteering at a community center is a much better place to meet a future wife.

    I have no trouble meeting females. But maybe I should focus on meeting better quality females suitable for marriage. What I have trouble with is breakups and Ive had a lot. I could really use some stability in my life with one female. I feel that if I would have worked things out better, maybe I would have been married by now. Its also somewhat frustrating that my ex has ended up marrying the guy she dated after me, even though I spent 4 years with her and she only been with the new guy for 2 years.

    Anyway, solid advice you give and I will follow. I would like to be around women who are also looking for a husband. Cheers!
     
  7. Carolina Speed

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    If you're looking for a long term relationship and or marriage, it's like dwid said, you can't try too hard, it will happen when you least expect it.

    But the most important aspect of a long term relationship and commitment is you and and your lady have to have alot in common. She has to be your best friend!

    My wife without a doubt is my best friend, period!
     
  8. jaxvid

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    Stay away from relationships, they're poison to men today.

    go to http://heartiste.wordpress.com/

    If I was a young man I'd live that way for sure.

    The Sixteen Commandments of Poon, learn them!
     
  9. 'sup bro?

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    1. THE most important thing a conscious white person NEEDS to do is BREED.

    2. Relationships are a contract and the best relationships are the most fairly negotiated. 'fights' arise from un-negotiated aspects of life that pile up on one person. Immediate communication, problem solving skills and a sense of fairness can quickly resolve these issues.

    3. Don't be afraid to assert yourself and take on the RESPONSIBILITY as the alpha in the relationship. Men are less emotional and, on average, make better decisions.

    4. The goal of the relationship should be to strengthen FAMILY. It is the family that will provide our means for survival during the global colonization of western countries.

    5. Love is an emotion and is also thoughtless. A joyful life will come from knowing you have served your extended family (race) by being a great male role model, managing your family for long term sustainability and leaving a strong biological legacy of your own progeny.

    6. Don't bang other chicks when you're in a committed relationship. Women hate it and they will destroy your family over it. An affectionate female should be an expectation. A woman gone cold should be reminded of this expectation, since the male has upheld his end of the deal. I don't like weeding the garden, but I do it gladly as a part of sharing the responsibilities around the house. A woman that has the potential to wander should have clear restrictions that lead to behaviors that promote trust, rather than suspicion.
     
  10. scroat

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    I wouldn't look for anything long-term with at least 75% percent of American girls for the obvious reasons. Sharks, fat, materialistic etc. Once you get into that 25% its a crap shoot.
     
  11. Thrashen

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    You’re about 2-3 years younger than I am, and I personally couldn’t fathom having sexual intercourse with even half that many women over a lifetime. I was sexually involved with exactly one woman (while in high school) before meeting my future wife around the age of 20. My choice to avoid indiscriminately fornicating with random whores (especially in college) wasn’t due to lack of opportunity, either. I’ve never drank a day in my life (which eliminates most young women), and was too busy working during college to attend parties, bars, nightclubs, or anything else. As many here know, my seething aversion for modern women rivals any “male rights activist” there is…all the more reason not to give them the satisfaction of treating them like some One-Time-Use, “Warm Hole De Jour.” Of course, most of these morality-deficient, racially-obtuse, material-driven, TV-nurtured, Jew-engineered, fish-scented troglodytes deserve far worse treatment than simply being used as “disposable meat” before being left to decay in the arms of its next male victim.


    Honestly, I don’t feel sorry for you in the slightest way. In one of your many infamous “Arab Woman Are the Greatest” threads, you once wrote something like: “Most of the time, after I meet a new girl at a club, she’s sucking my d-ck within 15 minutes!” Do you actually think that any real woman (the precious few that remain) would long to marry a “man” who treats sex with total strangers like a hobby and consumes other woman like bargain-basement prostitutes? Any self-respecting woman should despise a man with a past such as yours. I know that my wife would.

    Getting badgered for attention by swollen-headed men is every woman’s fantasy. You reek of desperation for a “long term commitment” with one woman, yet you pounce upon every furry-lipped, jaundice-skinned, underbite-sporting Burka-head capable of fogging a mirror and attempt to immediately have sex with them? You don’t sound very sincere in your purported goal of marriage.

    Under one of your numerous former screenames at CF, you once posted several startling photos of yourself. In said photos, you strongly resembled a frail, effeminate, homo/metrosexual wearing expensive clothing whilst “posing” like a fashion model. What do the Muslim fathers of these girls think of you? I ask because Muslim fathers are archetypally “ethno-conservative” and are notorious for the “honor killing” of daughters who’ve dated undesirable young men. Of course, I’m not condemning them…if only white fathers would protect their family’s honor in such a passionate manner.
     
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  12. Highlander

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    Whenever a man (in the West) gets married and says "I do", he's making a contract with "The State" to pay alimony and up to 18 years of child support (even is she has a child with another man during her marriage) if she should decide (at any time, for any reason) to end the relationship and file for divorce.

    If he fails to pay the alimony or child support, he can (and surely will) be sent to prison. Hardly an incentive for Western men to get married anymore, let alone have children, in contemporary Cult Marx America and the rest of the feminist-ridden Anglo world (Canada, "Great" Britain, New Zealand and Australia).

    The only way out of this is to remove the implicit contract between the man and "The State" regarding marriage. "The State" has no business, outside of marital status for income tax purposes, to be involved in marriage.

    I would agree with you if it was circa 1982. Now, I would say the percentage of marriageable women (in the West) these days to be about 3%, at most.
     
  13. 'sup bro?

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    agree with you 100% highlander. i feel like i'm eating a bit of crow knowing that marriage licenses were initially put in place to stop miscegenation.
     
  14. BoxingSpecialist2

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    Thrashen, first of all if you are in your mid20's and married to a respectable female, thats great, but thats certainly an exception and for a lot of males of all ages, things dont work out that way. So I think you should consider your situation somewhat fortunate.

    I also dont particularly enjoy alcohol. I do have a beer on occasion and sometimes a bit more. But compared to most people, Id definitely say Im not a drinker.

    As for my appearance. I like my appearance and I am completely comfortable with it. Many other people like my appearance and compliment me on it. If you dont like my appearance, thats fine, I guess Im just not your cup of tea. However there is nothing frail about me. Im in great shape, workout everyday, and used to compete in boxing in my teens. You should know that size is not strength, rather its how strong you are per your size that is the true measurement of strength. I am about 160lbs.

    Sex is different for men and women. As a man, I have standards, but I also have a high sex drive, and just because I am single doesn't mean Im not going to have sex.

    In my opinion, its not nearly as bad for a man to accumulate many sexual partners as it is for a woman. So, as a man, I dont feel that my behaviour is inappropriate or bad.

    As a woman, its much worse to have many sexual partners and it should be frowned upon. This is because men and women are not equal, we have different sex drives, and we have different sex and family roles.

    As a white man who dates many Persians and Arabs, what I like is that I find these women to make (in my opinion) better mothers, wives, and overall more conservative. I also see some Arabs and Persians as white, and without doubt they are Caucasian. I am comfortable dating and marrying a Caucasian.

    I have the added luxury of having dated and slept with both European and Middle Eastern women so I feel my comparisons are on the mark. What I am saying is all from first hand experience.

    My relationship with Arab and Persian men is mixed. Some I am very friendly, almost brotherly with, and others I find to be disagreeable with me. Some of them see me as a white man that is stealing their women, but in my opinion theyre ignorant to larger racial reality of Caucasians.

    I dont mean to start an argument so hopefully you can accept my comments as polite and with good intentions. Thanks for your post.
     
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  15. whiteathlete33

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    Blah blah blab blah! You look frail to me. As for your taste for Persian and Arab women, do you really think any of us care? Do you really think any of us wanted to see those metrosexual pictures of you? If you really think that you are accomplishing something in life by whoring around with all these women then you really are a confused little man!
     
  16. BoxingSpecialist2

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    I post my picture on this site, because I have nothing to hide and I am not afraid to be public about my opinions on race, racism, feminism, media portrayal and racism in sports. I don't consider myself a hateful person. However, I don't necessarily agree with the way mainstream society handles these topics and I think there needs to be revision and open dialogue into them.

    I think this site - castefootball - is truly a Godsend, and it forces you to think outside the box. There is a lot more truth to this site than anyone will give it credit for and unfortunately, this site will never be mainstream because its politically incorrect.

    Here's a tip for you: Anonymous activism isn't really worth anything.

    I think that this "cause" would gain a lot more spirit if more people were like me and were open/public about their beliefs.

    Actually, I think any time someone posts their picture they should be congratulated for being honest about themselves and taking a semi-public stance on a controversial issue.

    No, I dont think Im accomplishing anything by that.

    I think that you should take the time to consider what Im saying.

    In my opinion Middle Eastern women are usually more conservative, so I would suggest them as the best possibility for a wife, especially to anyone who posts on this site or anyone who is "racially conscious". If you don't agree with that that's fine. That's just my suggestion. One advantage I have over you, is that I have experienced with both ethnicities so I honestly can tell you the difference from experience with both.

    You might suggest European white women, but that suggestion is not as credible as mine because you don't have the experience warranted to give that suggestion.

    If you get a conservative European wife thats great, but what Im saying is that they occur at drastically lower percentages than do Middle Easterns.
     
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  17. Riddlewire

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    I had no desire to post in this thread, because my opinion is that each situation is different. What works for one won't necessarily work for others. But, after reading, I see that everyone is just posting generalities, and I think that's probably the best answer. We all have our own experiences, and, perhaps, the collective sum of them can provide some insight into the complications of male-female relationships.
    Unfortunately, my compendium of knowledge is rather limited on this subject. I can only offer two bits of insight that I'm certain are true.

    First, if you haven't already, read this. It may not be 100% accurate for all women, but it's certainly a valuable nugget of information to carry with you whenever you're considering a long term relationship.

    Second, from my own life experiences, I know that there's one thing about women that IS universal. They have a biological need to "fix" things (and by things, I mean people). They can't help this. They will be driven to it incessantly. They won't forget about it over the course of decades. I've never decided whether I think this is just a selfish desire to have their world conform to the way they find most pleasing, or if they believe that they are selflessly giving of themselves to help those they believe are "damaged" in some way. Having been down this road a few times, I can say for certain that it's best not to traverse it with them. It might cause endless strife to stonewall, but you're in for a lot more trouble if you allow yourself to be "fixed" even one time (double entendre intended).

    I suppose both of those are defensive suggestions. As far as offering helpful information in terms of finding/keeping a mate, my recommendation is to find a girl who hates all the things that you hate. It has kept my parents together for fifty years, even though they really don't like any of the same things. It even gives them things to talk about daily (that all important "communication" that women crave). After all, nobody ever gets tired of bitching about things. And if you've got somebody who agrees with you, then you'll always be satisified (if not always happy).
     
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    With such a numb, quasi-masculine, obtuse attitude toward gender relations, it’s no wonder you haven’t been able to secure a long-term vaginal slave (sorry, “wifeâ€)…as modern women fundamentally-adore wretched, hardhearted men (with a checkered history of mistreating women) who treat them poorly.

    The unquenchable furnace of the “Female Supremacist Revolution†that is currently devouring what little true femininity remains within the Anglosphere began as a result of such appalling, flawed, radically-hypocritical, Negro-esque ponderings. I’ll listen to my grandfather (who moved to the U.S. as a child in the 1950’s) talk about how common it was for a white man to cheat on his wife in those days. You know, those mindless, nauseatingly-glorified WWII cretins who endured absolute hell on the battlefield (in between sessions of viciously-raping European girls, of course) so that the dark lotus of Cultural Marxism and Global Zionism may blossom to their fullest. From what he says, it seemed like every card-carrying member of the “Greatest Generation†(of racially-indifferent imbeciles) had another women in addition to his own wife. Conversely, it was few and far between that a wife would cheat on her husband in those days…and when it did actually occur, it was usually an act of sheer retaliation because the miserable dolt had already cheated on her tenfold.

    A man who arbitrarily fornicates with numerous female partners without the slightest distress for the honor of his future wife/marriage/family is perfectly acceptable in your eyes…but a woman who does the same should be chastised and considered little more than an odious, glorified prostitute? Muslim-style fairness.

    The (allegedly) personal photos I’m referring to were posted by you in a thread entitled: “I’d like to introduce myself and say Hi to the Communityâ€â€¦

    http://www.castefootball.us/forums/...-introduce-myself-and-say-Hi-to-the-Community

    Even if you are truly a heterosexual, any rational person viewing said photos would be overwhelmingly inclined to consider you a homo/metrosexual. From what I remember, you had very light skin, but slightly-Asiatic facial features (rotund skull, jet-black bug eyes, and dark, protruding red lips). Under one of your numerous since-banned user names (Listen2Trance, BoxingFanUK, Ahmet2K, BoxingSpecialist), you once admitted to being a Muslim from Bosnia/Herzegovinia currently living in Canada.
     
  19. BoxingSpecialist2

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    Ok, so you admit to sleeping around before you were married.

    Then you go on to say that:

    Seems like you have some problems yourself pal, and clearly, you're not perfect or some sort of role model Virgin that you paint yourself out to be. Quite frankly, maybe you should take your own advice then you wouldn't have had sex with someone other than your wife before getting married.

    I guess you're not some sort of Saint or Protector of Virginity as you like to pass yourself off as.

    My career is in fashion (Ive worked at places like Armani, Burberry, and a few local places). So if I dress a bit "Euroish", "flashy", or "metro" that's why. Also, thats just my personality and how I am. I also live in the City. Country folks can have a different idea on how to dress. I assure you I am straight, completely heterosexual, and I act as masculine as any mad should.

    Yes I am a white, fully European-blood Muslim from birth (this might be a shock to some Americans on this site, yes there are actually white Muslims, and yes there are many Middle Easterners who proudly consider themselves white), but I don't practice my religion at all. My appearance is Caucasian with darker features. Similar to Southern or some types of Eastern Europeans.

    In that thread you linked, you will also see links to threads I have made on other websites discussing media censorship of black-on-white crime and how media and government concealment is a primary foundation for genocide (targeted media censorship and non reporting is a building block of genocide, and can be viewed as such), mentally deficient Negroes, and analyzing gains of European boxers in Professional Boxing.

    For literally about 5 or 6 years I have been one of the most vocal supporters of European Boxers on the whole Internet (among various other racial discussions).


    I don't have a "side" agenda here and your posts are just rude, abrasive, and utterly misinformed on your part. You seem like a "Blonde Supremacist", or maybe you just get your jollies off starting infights between others on this board. I guess the concept and definition of "Caucasian" just flew right over your head and abruptly stopped at "Western European" huh buddy?

    Either way, I'm not going to bite on your "argument". You can address me with respect, and stop your insults, or else I'd rather not talk to you and henceforth I will simply ignore you. Your pick, pal.
     
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    BS 2 I love it when you start these short termed, albeit classic threads. The earnest way you write and openess of you feelings on your "love" and women problems are hilirious.

    What makes it funnier is when Thrashen learns of your threads and you both "exchange" positions and ideas. Funny Sh*t.

    Tip: Alot of smart women find that educated men are prized and stable. I am sure you have advised them you are "University Educated". If you forgot, throw that line every 3rd sentence. Keeper Chics dig it. :israel:

    Disgard the Isreal flag part. I just think this emocon fits my post. LOL
     
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    Alright, you exposed me…I’m a fraud and gutter filth of the highest order. For what it’s worth, this girl and I we were engaged at the time and I was under the impression that we’d be married in the near future. You, conversely, have boasted (in this thread and many others) about sleeping with dozens of women, some mere hours after first meeting them.

    Haha, it was you that wanted our relationship “advice,” which was the reason for this thread’s inception.
     
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    Thanks, friend. I'm glad you can find some humour in it :)
     

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