What's better/worse 4 a last name?

whiteCB

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Well my best buddy's older brother is getting married this summer. Being an English major in college he was obviously exposed to feminine studies as well as feminist classmates. Well the women he is about to be marrying is one of those classmates and she's KEEPING her last name. I feel for the guy he's just a modest English teacher trying to get by on a average salary but to marry a women who won't take your last name well it just leaves a sour taste in my mouth. So what's worst: having your wife just keep her last name or her getting one of those hyphenated last names??

I mean obviously it's a lose/lose situation but is one less worse than the other??

Let's have at it guys...Edited by: whiteCB
 

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I would hope that she would at least show him the respect and use both last names. So my answer is a hyphenated one, if he insists on marrying this woman..
 

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it's all about the kids. as long as she's poppin' out white babies, she's working for us.
 

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IMO, it's disrepectful to the man & the tradition of (American) marriage for a gal to keep her maiden name (in any capacity). It's part of the fallout of "feminism" that a woman somehow (is supposed to) feel empowered & a "sense of independence" by retaining her maiden name (which is supposed to come from her daddy anyway).
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whiteCB, I wouldn't let it get to that point. If the woman doesn't want my last name, I don't want her for a wife anyway. She ain't marriage material, as they used to say. So, I'd choose neither. Much like the n-word test and various other techniques we use to ferret out undesirable potential mates, the issue of taking the husband's last name should be brought up as soon as possible. These are good rules of thumb to go by and they can save you a lot of time.
 

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Colonel_Reb said:
whiteCB, I wouldn't let it get to that point. If the woman doesn't want my last name, I don't want her for a wife anyway.

I agree with you. That type of woman probably has a long list of unfavorable traits. Better to remain single.
 

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Colonel_Reb said:
whiteCB, I wouldn't let it get to that point. If the woman doesn't want my last name, I don't want her for a wife anyway. She ain't marriage material, as they used to say. So, I'd choose neither. Much like the n-word test and various other techniques we use to ferret out undesirable potential mates, the issue of taking the husband's last name should be brought up as soon as possible. These are good rules of thumb to go by and they can save you a lot of time.


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Only a mangina tolerates crap like that.
 

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Bart said:
That type of woman probably has a long list of unfavorable traits. Better to remain single.

Yeah, if I had a woman with an attitude like that I'd let her keep her last name the old fashioned way.

By not marrying her.Edited by: The Hock
 

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The Hock said:
Bart said:
That type of woman probably has a long list of unfavorable traits. Better to remain single.

Yeah, if I had a woman with an attitude like that I'd let her keep her last name the old fashioned way.

By not marrying her.

Indeed. Gals like that would probably be better suited for ending up as old maids/hens anyhow.
 

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The Hock said:
Bart said:
That type of woman probably has a long list of unfavorable traits. Better to remain single.

Yeah, if I had a woman with an attitude like that I'd let her keep her last name the old fashioned way.

By not marrying her.

Funny!!!
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one of my brothers married a woman who kept her own last name, and refused to even hyphenate it with our family name.
another brother married a woman who agreed to a hyphenated name.

Ihad a feeling that both marriages--especially the first one mentioned--would fail eventually--which they did.

I agree. A woman who refuses to adopt the name of the husband is showing great disrespect to him.Edited by: Solomon Kane
 
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This is why a White man should screen all dates for signs of jewish feminism or cultural marxist beliefs and immediately put the ones that show this mental damage into the discard pile. A few carefully worded questions early on can save a lot of pain.
 

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Solomon Kane said:
one of my brothers married a woman who kept her own last name, and refused to even hyphenate it with our family name.
<div>another brother married a woman who agreed to a hyphenated name.</div>
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<div>I had a feeling that both marriages--especially the first one mentioned--would fail eventually--which they did.</div>
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<div>I agree. A woman who refuses to adopt the name of the husband is showing great disrespect to him.</div>



I read an article recently which talks about how in some of the exceedingly feminist societies throughout the globe (places like Oregon, California, San Francisco, and some Scandinavian nations); men were actually taking the last names of their new wives. Dear old "dad"Â￾ must be so proud. Not even the most legitimate white liberal men could stomach such overwhelmingly filthy treatment of manhood.

The notion of Feminism is essence of irony. A woman is supposedly made to feel "oppressed"Â￾ and "dehumanized"Â￾ and "unequal"Â￾ by men"¦so she makes it her life's work to force men to feel oppressed and dehumanized and unequal. The hypocrites responsible for these inconsistent and callous ideals are attempting to create the exact same society as what presently exists"¦but with inverse roles played by each sex. How "progressive."Â￾
 

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celticdb15 said:
I would hope that she would at least show him the respect and use both last names. So my answer is a hyphenated one, if he insists on marrying this woman..

The one exception I would suppose, is if the woman is the last in the lineage to carry her dads last name and he has no sons to carry on the family name.
 

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Hyphenated surname is always the best compromise. Think of the Hapsburg dynasty continuation, as in Hapsburg-Lorraine.
 

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if the girl really loves you she wouldn't think about keeping her own name.So that is the reason i would not like it if she wants to keep her own name.To me name is not so important, most of the time also the women that want to keep their own name are also the ones that think they are a lot related to the forefarther where they have the name from,most of the time it is a forfarther but not more important then the other thousands or millions of forefarthers where you don't have the name from becuase it stopped female line.
 

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Where does it stop? Will peoples names be like those long drawn out spanish surnames like Eduardo Rodriguez-Peron-Saville-Cordoba-Corona and on and on. You have to pick a name. The name that is picked is the alpha member of the pair. If it's not your last name then you know where you rank in the pecking order.
 
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